Is he playing me still?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
A guy said he wanted a relationship with me and was looking at a family and kids etc then somewhere along the line he decided to focus on sex- we never slept together since it felt like he was putting too much pressure. Went like this for a while. He himself was not impressed with the fact that I have a good relationship (just friends) with other guys. He seemed to dislike that I am comfortable talking to guys but then said its fine if I have a boyfriend but that guy better take care of me otherwise he would suffer!
One day out of nowhere he told me that he would hurt the me and how great I am, deserve more and how can I know for a fact that heís not seeing anyone else and how a guy like him could easily use a girl like me. We agreed to keep it just friends and nothing else. Every once in a while he would still imply he wanted more and more often than not sex was on his mind but then heíd back off and say just friends again.
His pals said I was the best thing to ever happen to him and he wants us to be together and really cares about me but our differences were too much but they still saw things coming right and he really cares about me.
I found out recently via the grapevine that he had a girlfriend of over 2 years and she knew that we were friends and she thought that I knew about her. She called me a few times and has been very nice but Iím not sure what she wants or what they want. There is the thing going around from certain people that he has cheated on girlfriends before and he is really smooth so it wouldnít be that surprising.
I barely spoke to him since and he knows why. It became a case of I greet when I see him and answer his questions if I really have to and walk away, all very civil.
I ran into the guy at the supermarket recently and he started talking for some reason. He said that he really cares about his girlfriend and doesnít want to screw things up with either one of us and thatís why he left it at just friends with me since they were together for a long time.
He wants me in his life and he wanted something (sex is my guess here) to happen with us but couldnít hurt us both. Now he still expects me to believe that he cares and wants to be friends and that he has my interests at heart. I was doing fine, I didnt even pursue to the matter with him because it just didnít feel worth it, even when he knew that I knew what was going on. I want to believe him but im not sure, he lied to me and his girlfriend but then there is the very obvious I still have feelings for him. Why is he instigating all this again?
I think you have figured him out.
He is a player and wants to get you in bed while still having his girlfriend.
My advice is to forget him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com