Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have this problem. I've been dating a guy who was two months younger than me for about 2 months. I liked him looong time before, though. He looked just perfect. It happend, that he asked me to date him. But as I came to know him further, I realised, he's silly, but I kept going out with him, because he was really handsome and something inside me wanted to stay close to him.
Our relationship was weird. I couldn't talk about what I felt, because I was sure he wouldn't understand it, I didn't want to confuse him. We've been together alone (but always in a public place - parks...) cca 9 times. Then we went to the party and he saw my shoolmate, he outdrew me (not that night fortunately) and started to date her.
(Was I showing too little interest? Yeah, I might have done it.)
It's already been a year and I can't find a way to get a new relationship. I wasn't really into this guy, after I had known him better, but he was my first to kiss, touch.. (no sex though) you know.
Every other guy (this included) is just too shallow, bad-looking, whatever - I always find a reason why not to like him (I AM NOT TOO SUPERFICIAL) but I like beauty. Beauty is a great thing to look at. In short terms: No one attracts me in any way. I lost interest.
You'll probably tell me, that I should go to parties and meet new people. But they get me even more depressed by showing me, that there's no one who would fully understand me. I don't know, what to do.
In my life I've met approximately 3 boys I knew I would like to stay together life-long. But they all live too far. I need to admire and then I can love. But what if I can't meet anyone worth admiring? Should I wait? I am 18 right now. I know there will be a lot of opportunities to get a boyfriend, but why should I stay alone while everyone is having a great time with his b/gf?
Ok, it's long enough. Thank you guys for reading this and replying I am really cofused. Best wishes, Phirephtis from Czech Republic :).
(Sorry for my bad english, I hope you can make a head or tail of it..)
Your English is very good.
I am sorry you are in this situation.
In English there is a saying: "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince." You seem to want to find a prince without even looking at any frogs at all.
You have only kissed one guy and you are almost giving up already. You might try being less strict about who you will date. It is nice to date a very good looking guy, but maybe you will find someone nice who is only average looking.
Ask your friends and family to keep an eye out for guys for you. Be brave and ask guys out for a date if they are interesting to you.
Try looking online for someone nearby.
You will find someone or someone will find you.
Phirephtis from the USA! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com