She's talking to her ex again
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now and about two months ago she started talking to her ex again after they had a falling out for about 3 months or so. I told her right away after I was told they were talking that I wasn't comfortable with her spending time with him, or even talking to him because he wasn't a good friend after they broke up, he talked behind her back, and lied about a lot of things. Also he tried to get her to cheat on her next significant other who was also one of his best friends. Also after she broke up with that significant other, she began to sleep with her ex again. However, she ignored this and went out to dinner with him, spent time alone in the middle of the night with him and ignored my feelings, causing my trust in her to fade.
We've gotten into many fights about this, and she did cut down the amount she sees him but she still devotes a full day to him even though everytime she does I get upset and we get into a fight. I've tried to get over this, but it's hard to since recently my trust in her had been hurt because I found out she had been lying about her past with him, and also about her past with her other friend that I knew she was lying about the whole 5 months, but wouldn't confess about still.
She doesn't understand why those two lies affect me so much since she didn't think they were that important, and I keep trying to tell her that if she'd lie about small things it makes me feel like she would about big things.
What should I do about my jealousy and her ex? Also how can I regain trust in her again?
Jealousy is a tough nut to crack.
See a counselor if you can. Read up on trust at the following website:
She is not doing much to build the trust. Have a close talk with her and see if you can make some progress.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com