What should I do to get my exgirlfriend back?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Hello again, you guys have been giving me advice for some time but now the situation changed, before my ex and I were acting more or less like a regular couple, we would travel together just the 2 of us, we made love, we kissed, we would tell each other that we needed each other but she would always tell me that something that she didnít know what it was, was preventing her from loving me like she used to.
She asked me to help her find professional help to overcome her insecurities and she told me that maybe that way she would be able to finally love me as before, a friend of mine recommended a great psychologist and I arranged my ex-girlfriendís first appointment with the psychologist, after a week of therapy she broke up our relationship for good, and now she tells me that Iím the closest thing to the perfect man, that her brain tells her that Iím just what she needs, and that she even desires me still, but that no one is master of itís own heart and that, although she tried, she couldnít make herself feel love for me again. She also says that we are too different in some aspects of our way of thinking about some things and that that is also a factor that pull us apart.
I love her more than anything and I have tried everything I could think of to get her back, but I have failed, please guys, help me get her back, what must I do?, Iíll do anything. I love her like Iíve never loved anyone before. You guys are my only hope now, your previous advice was helpful because it brought us closer, but now things are different, please help me.
P.S. Please donít tell me that nothing can be done, there must have been something I havenít tried or a different approach, but I just canít find it by myself, thatís why I come to you for help.
I am sorry you are in this situation.
First thing you should do, if you havent' already, is to become her best friend. As friends, you can go out to dinner, concerts, walks, etc. It will also likely draw you back together. It will also make you feel better.
You should also go to your own psychologist for help. You will get far better advice from a trained professional than you will get here.
When you go out as friends, remember to bring her flowers and dark chocolates.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com