My Boyfriend of 4 Years Wants a Break
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend of 4 years just broke up with me and he wants me to move out, he says that he really doesn't know what he wants right now and needs time to think things over, he says that he still loves me and cares about me and i love him so much i would do anything to keep him, i just don't know what to do.
hes leaving and going on a trip with his family for a week and i really hope that when he comes back he will say that he made a mistake and wants me back, is it dumb of me to think that right now i need help i don't know what to do or think
A relationship is all about two best friends facing the world together, facing difficulties together and overcoming problems together. So it's not a good sign that the first you hear of this is "I'm running away, see ya, I might be back. Oh and I won't tell you why." That is NOT the action of a best friend.
If he has problems, he needs to talk with you about them! That's the whole point of why you're there. A relationship isn't about "when things are fun I stay and when they get a bit tricky I take off". It's about working through issues. It is his responsibility to bring up when he is feeling unhappy, for you guys to talk about it together and then work out solutions. Yes it's not EASY to do that. But the whole point of a relationsihp is that you handle the hard times as WELL as the easy times.
When he gets back, I would sit down and have a long talk with him. Tell him if he's troubled, you two can work through it *together*. But that running away is never the way to solve problems.
-- from Jenn
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