I want to be better than my boyfriend's ex?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I often feel jealous of my boyfriend's ex. I feel like I hate her. My boyfriend and her broke up because she caught him kissing another girl. They continued to date and have sex but soon decided to break up and the decision of the break up was mutual. He says that he felt bad for her but he didn't love her.
He always tells me I am more beautiful than her and that he loves me, wants to marry me and have kids. I feel the same way. He says that the things he did in the past happened because he was younger and immature. (he is two years older than me and we are now engaged)
However the thing that bothers me is that he told me that the last day when they broke up he masturbated her because she asked him to do so. So every time I see her I remember that and get angry. We often frequent the same club on weekends so most of the time when we go to the club she is there. After the break up they remained friends but shortly after we started dating that friendship ended because she couldn't forget that he cheated on her. So they don't even say hi to each other anymore but I still feel jealous. I ask him a lot of questions about his past relationships. I wonder if he is honest when he says the past is the past. I also get jealous because she is a little youger than me. I think I am better looking than her because many people have said that. So I wish I can prove that to her. I also want to find a way to overcome my jealousy. PLEASE HELP ME!
Jealousy is very difficult to overcome and it is destructive to relationships.
You don't seem to have anything real to complain about. Being jealous can eat at your love and drive him away.
Learn more about trust. It is very important. See this website:
It will do you good.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com