Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
First off let me just give you some background info... I have been working with this girl since the new "store" (I work in a coffee shop) oppened up in mid/late November. She and I also attened the same College although we seem to have opposite schedules and are never on campus at the same time. When we first started working together I treated her as I would any other co-woker. I have a slightly naturally flirty attitude but its nothing totaly out there but I am also very modest and shy when it comes to relationships. It wasn't up until about 2-3 months ago that I noticed that I had feelings for her....at first it didn't make much sense to me because she is basically the opposite of what I have always thought I would be happy with...I started to dismiss this as nothing until one day when I she was leaving she said "love you bye" really fast and skittered out the door...this was about 2 months ago and she has done it twice since then...the only problem is that Im not the only one she says it to so I don't know what to make of it...she usually says it to her female friends but she never skitters out the door afterward... both my parents (whom I live with still to save money....college is expensive.) say that they think she likes me but that doesn't mean much comming from them cause they say that about alot of girls I know....anyways...the biggest problem is that she is very on-again off-again...one day she'll be talking to me alot asking questions and such and the next she'll practically ignore me talking to eveyone else...I have a pretty good feeling that she likes me only cause there are times where she does stuff like intentionally running into me or standing really close along with all of the smiling and eye contact (she doesn't stare at me but we do lock eyes alot even when we aren't talking)...there has even been a situation where another co-worker told us to stop flirting and we both looked at eachother with a yeah right look on our faces but I know her eyes said "oh crap now he might know" and then it took her a second to say that we weren't flirting and me another to acknowledge that comment...so I suppose my question is what you think of the whole situation? and is there an easy way to go about finding out how she feels without jeapordizing my comfortableness at my job?
PS I only work weekends if that holds any value. and sorry for the novel I just figured details would help.
This is very simple to resolve.
Ask her to go to a movie with you (or dinner, or whatever). If she says yes then she has some interest in you but if she says no then you can chalk it up to experience.
This will not affect your friendship at work so don't worry about that.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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