He's a Flirt
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
there's this boy i've known for very long time now and he likes me. how do i no? he told 2 of my friends; and he told my sister, she asked him if he was still going out with somebody he said "yea but i'll tell you right now i probably wont be going out with her much longer, cause i like you're sister. i've always liked your sister" my sister told him that she wouldn't tell me but she did.
well she told me and i was like "ok" "finally it's about time he asked me out"
well he comes down where i live to visit his dad who lives around my block. then he has to go back an live with his mom on weekdays. he stayed with his dad all summer thats when he told me he liked me. well he asked me the day before he had to leave back to his mom's house.
then this weekend my friends went somewhere and saw him there with his girl friend. 1 of my friends told me he had his hand on her butt. now im just mad that he would say that and flirt with me ALL THAT TIME! then be with another girl so easly it's makin me a lil mad.
i really like him; and i plus every1 on my block knows he likes me. so whats holding him back?
Sure he likes you. He likes other girls too and he wants them ALL. He doesn't want to have to choose just one, he's a player. You want to be with him but you want him to change. Life doesn't work like that. People are the way they are and you either accept that about them or you find someone who you can accept.
This guy enjoys playing the field and doing whatever he wants to do. He'll tell you what you want to hear ... then he'll walk down the street and tell another girl what SHE wants to hear. You're setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you think you can "change him".
I would keep him as a fun friend - but for a REAL boyfriend I would find a guy that is more mature. You need a guy that actually cares about YOU and you alone and will respect you. If you hook up with a guy that's a player, he will not only hurt you emotionally and make you cry, but could give you a nasty sexual disease that could harm you for life. It's not worth it.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com