I still love him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Years ago my fiancé started cheating on me so I wanted revenge and I started cheating too.. I came across this amazing guy who I got involved with .. I told him the truth from the beginning of our relationship .. I was unhappily engaged and he didn't seem to mind, we had an amazing time together he was like my soul mate and I fell in love with him BUT he never expressed his true feelings for me, so I didn't think he cared for me (I felt like he was playing me ) .. Anyways I left him and got married had a child and then my marriage started to fall apart because my husband was abusive physically, emotionally,and mentally.. Years after my divorce I run in to that amazing guy and I tried to work things out with him but he told me he didn't like me the way he use to and that he stopped trusting women ever since me.. He told me I hurt him a lot and he doesn't want to be emotionally or sexually involved with me.. He would tell me he likes me as a friend and then kiss me but not sleep with me .. He seemed very hurtful he asked me why do I want him and what if I runaway with someone eels .. I tried working things out with him but he refused to let me in.. I truly believe that his my soul mate but I'm so confused and don't know what to do.. I still love him .. I don't know why his refusing intimacy or even my friendship now.. He said he will never forget me because he knows I care and then disappeared.. Its been almost a year and I'm still thinking and loving him .. Did I trully hurt him that bad and is he scared to be with me or am I just anoying him ??
What can I do ??
My advice is to take him at his word and forget about him.
If he still had any significant feelings for you, they would come rushing back as they did for you. All he's said and done indicates that he is not interested in you. Even if some of his statements are exaggerations the bottom line still is that he is through with you.
Sorry for this gloomy advice, but that's the way I read the situation.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com