Getting Back with my Ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my ex and I broke up a year ago after being together for a year and a half. we still care for each other and have some how remained friends. we hang out about once a week and ocasionally "hook up."
I still like him and want to be with him but I don't know how to bring up the possibility of dating with out making him run in the opposite direction. how do I do this casually without coming off as needy or pushy?
I have advice on dealing with an ex here -
the key is that SOMETHING drove you apart the first time. You can't just pretend it didn't exist or do the rosy-colored-glasses thing and say "It won't happen this time!" If something was so serious that it caused a breakup, it needs to be talked about, really worked on and solutions need to be found. Otherwise you'll just break up all over again.
Have a serious talk with your ex and really discuss the things that went wrong. Then talk about ways to resolve them. If he sees that you seriously will address the issues, and if he is equally as committed to handling the problems, then your next attempt together has a far better chance of lasting.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com