Should I get back together with him?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I may already know the answer to this question, but I'm kinda looking for an outsider's opinion. I have dated the same guy several times over the past eight years. We worked together, and he didn't want a relationship with a co-worker, but we couldn't stay away from each other. Just about a year ago, I told him I was breaking things off with him for good, right before he left our company for another job. It took him one day to realize he couldn't live without me, so we decided to make a real "go" of it, and got serious. We ended up dating for six months and things were great. He kept telling me he wanted to get married and have a baby, etc. I thought things were going great, right up until I wanted to start taking steps in that direction. Nothing serious, just meeting friends, family members, leaving a change of clothes at his place. Thats when we started fighting A LOT. He used the fact that he didn't want to fight all the time to break up with me. I was devastated. He ended up cutting me out of his life completely, until recently, when he decided to come back to work at our company again. We did not get along for the first few months and it was pretty miserable. Something changed a few weeks ago and we've been getting along great. I thought we were in "friend" mode, but he's been flirting and acting pretty darn friendly. We even went and had a couple of drinks together. He's been saying all the right things, but I just don't know if it's because he's feeling lonely, or jealous, and would back off again if I returned his "affections", or if he really means it. I'm pretty gun shy, due to the fact that I've been down this road with him a few times. Am I insane for even considering it? I'm all about second chances, but has this guy just had one too many? Some great words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!
Eight years is a long, long time.
Since you haven't connected in that time, there is probably little hope that another try will change anything.
My advice is to keep it at friend mode as you have until now.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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