Dont know what to do with breakup
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My bf & I been together for a year in a long distance relationship. Lately, he's been dealing with a lot of severe issues. He came for a month we had a blast. I found out Im pregnant & took the measures with him to end it. My best friend came with me & I was very sad. She confronted him about how bad Im doing and how he should be there more and suggested he do something special for me & he got upset that she got involved. He just switch, got furious & told me he felt insulted cuz he was very supportive regardless of his own issues & asked for space. He felt I complainned to her and didnt respect him. As we were about to fix it, some girl (a friend I meet through him) went & told him more stupidities and twisted around things I told her when she's aware of how in love I am with him. He got more mad & broke up with me. The next day, I went to see him, he was mad but didnt let me leave although he told me we were over. As I walked away, he came after me and asked me to stay. We fought & got intimate for 3 days. He said we werent back and it was best to go our seperate ways as he loved me as a person but didnt think we'd work out together because he's a private personm we could be friends but that was it, that I was the best person he ever meet but that he has too many stressful things to deal with that he has no time for more gf stress. I cried a lot and told him I loved him and that the only reason I spoke about him to my best friend was because he was so important to me and never intended to make him feel bad because I love him and I think he's perfect to me. He didnt seem convinced and said he cant get over these things. B4 I go I got emotionnal and felt hurt to feel him so cold towards me, so he just held me tight, said let's just let things cool down as its 2 much 2 handle 4 now, let the dust pass and then we'll talk. He said he wont forget me. I told him I needed him more than ever and couldnt bare not being with him. He told me well if you love me, give me my space so I deal with my shit and if we're meant, our paths will cross again. I left we kissed. I didnt contact him nor did he until 5 days later I called & didnt mention any of it. We spoke for 30 minutes and the conversation ran smoothly. He said he still wanted to go on a trip we had planned earlier for a weekend, missed me but didnt want to hurt me or have me think we were back & things were solved between us.
Thing is - He hasnt called me since - I felt he was still mad but we still managed to place a couple of laughs here and there. He asked about me, my family, my work and if I had told anyone about what happend. I said no. And he said he didnt either.
What should I do? Is he trying to be my friend? Should I let him be? Im confused he told me he didnt want me to think we were back and didnt want to hurt me, missed me and still wanted to go on our trip but when Valentine day came - I txt him You're still my valentine - and he didnt reply nor call...Should I wait another couple of days for his issues to resolve (a big family ordeal next Thursday), do I confront him now and tell him how its not right for him to push me away (although I already did when I was there)...whats best if I want him back? Im mixed between sadness and anger because I feel abondonned and disposed of. His brother called me yesterday asking me how I was doing and when I was coming next to see them, which I assume he didnt break down the news yet unless his brother was inquiring for him information...
Its been 2 weeks we broke up =(
And it feels like an eternity already
Better to wait until the family ordeal is over. Feelings should be calmed down after that, let's hope.
It's only been two weeks, so that's another reason to give it more time. After the family ordeal is over, then make your move.
He still wants to go on that trip with you and that's a good sign.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com