Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my partner a long time who i love very much. A couple of monthes ago i found screensavers on his computer of models in there underwere. Not only that he had photos and videos of the girls on his phone i confronted him about it and he got rid of them now i am very jelouse and insecure. I HATE HIM LOOKING AT GIRLS IN THE PAPER OR EVEN A MAGAZINE.think to myself all the time what does he see in me im nothing like a model or much to look at it makes my heart sink when i see him looking at these photos please help me get over this thankyou.
Most men and many women enjoy the opposite sex. This is built into our human nature. Men looking at women and women looking at men is normal.
However, you have made it clear to him that it bothers you a lot. He owes it to you to not do anything so rude as making screen savers out of models. That can only hurt you and do your relationship harm.
Compromise with him. Let him look at women in papers and magazines (but not girlie magazines) without hassling him.
Jealousy is a terrible thing which can ruin a relationship. You need to cut back a little on jealousy and he needs to consider your feelings more.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com