i want him back.. am i letting him no to much therefore he doesnt want me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
hi, im only 16 years old and ive just spilt with my boyfriend of 4 motnhs, ive known him for years as good freinds. we have a trust issue in this reltationship at first was fun and exciting, but then constant aruging. at first he finished with me and then 20 minutes later told me to forget everything he said, i was hurt and said its not that easy how could he do that to me?
anyway a few days later we got together and talked and he told me taht he does like me and does want to be with me,and sounded like he geninuely meant it, but asked can we try his way to make it work and asked me to trust him! so i agreed and it got better for the first couple of days, then i heard some hearsay and confronted him he said it wasnt true, (ive had a majour trust issue with him from the beginning becasue of what happen in the first week). but hten 5 days later more aruging he finished it again. and i believe other peopel where invovled in this decission. and i new this was really it he wudnt talk to me or anything, and i was begging him to get back with me etc, then i started to leave him alone and he started texting me then 5days after not being together, then he new i was ready to give up but we meet up for the night, and he said things such as 'he does really like me still, and does really want to be with me, and if we got back together he thinks it would get better.
since we have been apart our reltionship as friends has been better but i love him, and want the affectionate side to. and i just get so jealous, and when i talk to him about it now he just says 'i dont know' his been asking me to do things with him and getting jealous when im out with other people, i just dont understand this, he says he doesnt no how he feels,
but he obviously cares but wont do nothing about it, its like his scared.
your views please?
You both need to work on your trust issues.
No good relationship can exist without trust. Tell him how important it is to you and how you wouldn't be jealous if you could trust him. Talking gently and lovingly is a good way to build trust. Share things about yourselves and trust will also grow.
It is hard to have trust when he keeps breaking up with you. Explain that to him so he realizes what is happening.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com