Can I trust him? He's lied to me multiple times
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 13 months now. But this whole time we have been dating he has lied to me several times about his ex-girlfriends and other girls he hooked up with in the past.
One of his ex-girlfriends claims she lost her virginity to him and all of her friends do too but he denies it. He's even called up her friends to tell them it never happened, but I have my suspicious because he told me he didn't feel it when it went in and there was a pink dot on her sheets.
But other than that, he has lied about things he has done with girls (not his ex-gfs) in the past throughout our relationship. I asked him why he lied about that and he said because he wanted to "protect my feelings."
Throughout our relationship I would open up things for discussion about his past, but he would claim that he told me 100% of the truth, but later on I would find out more details about what he did with girls and ex-gfs. I would then ask him about what I've heard (which all turned out to be true) and then that's when he would tell me the truth.
It just bothers me that I would open up things for discussion and he would claim that he's honest and has nothing else to tell me, then I would find out about stuff, ask him about it, and then thats when he would tell me the truth.
What should I do? I've done everything I can, I really have. I've been there for him, stuck up for him when all my girlfriends told me to dump him, and I've tried to help his lying. I can't trust him, and the #1 thing to have in a relationship is trust. So should I call this relationship off?
If you think his bad behavior is continuing (fooling around with other girls even now) then you should dump him.
You obviously care very much about this and you are right that trust is the #1 thing in a relationship. So why waste your feelings on him since he can't be trusted.
Tell him you put up with it in the past but now you have reached a point in your maturity that you can't remain his girlfriend.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com