Trust and honesty
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My name is T*. I usually don't go online to ask for help but I am confuse and very lost right now. It would be really great if you can help me out. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost one year now. We moved in about three months ago and that's when things turnee really bad for us. I caught him lying to be about going on myspace. I am not overeacting but I caught him saying things to girls that he shouldn't say. He gave out his number to stranger girls and even to girls who are underage. Yes, he is twenty-four and they are under eighteen. He just keep on lying to me and I just lost my trust for him. He told me two weeks ago that he would change but things are not the same for me anymore. I still don't trust him. As a fact, I work eight hours a day and he does not. while at work, I think that he goes on myspace or talk to girls. I mean he hid their numbers in his notebook so I couldn't find it. I recently discoveried that he might have another myspace. I am finding the proof right now. What should I do? I love him but do not want to leave him. We live together so even when I do want to leave him, he always there and begged for me back. It is just so hard.
He is taking advantage of you.
Only you can decide how long you will put up with it.
Yes, you love him now, but what about the future after you have tired of his cheating, lying ways? Wouldn't it be better to suffer the pain on your own terms now rather than later when it may be more difficult? For example, he might find himself in jail if he hooks up with a minor.
My advice is to tell him good-bye and find someone new who you can trust.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com