Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok, I like a girl in my school. I met her a month ago and we've had a lot of fun when we have been together. She's actually the one who started everything. She sent me a message in which she said, that she'd like to get to know me. Then we went out and went to watch movies and stuff like that. Then I asked if she wanted to be with me. My friend told me I should ask as soon as possible. Well that was pretty stupid advice, because the girl I like said "no, we don't know each other enough yet." Luckily she didn't stop to talk with me and we got a little bit closer. It seemed like she liked me and I definitely liked her.
Few days ago we walked together from school and we talked a lot of things and had more fun talking with each other than ever before. That I smiled all the time even when I got home. Well, when I got home we continued talking through internet. Yet again we had talked about a lot of things. Then she suddenly became silent. Of course she talked to me when I said something to her, but not as lively as before.
The next day (actually it's the day I wrote this) she was even more silent. I tried to make some topics to talk about, but she always ended them with a short answer (like yes or no + smiley). Every time she answered there was silence for few minutes and then I said something again with the same thing happening. After we "talked" she said she has to go, and I asked "Where?" and she answered "Somewhere".
I can't do anything by calling her out, because when I ask her out, we end up to the sollution, that there's no interesting place here where we live. We've also been in movies so many times, that I don't think I should take her to watch movies with me for a long time.
Is she avoiding me and is she somehow losing interest in me? Or is this just temporary? I know it's pretty early to react, but I've just got this weird feeling.
Thanks in advance.
Sounds like you overdid the talking.
She got tired of too much chatting and stopped responding.
Cut back on your communications.
As far as finding fun things to do, ask all your friends to mention where they go to have fun and write it down. Ask her to do the same with her friends. You are sure to turn up some ideas.
Don't worry about this too much unless it goes on for a while. Some girls get into moods due to hormones or their menstrual cycle. So give her some time.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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