I like the girl I work with
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hey, I have a little bit of a problem and I know you guys would be the best to ask about it. It's about dating someone I work with.....There's this girl and she's less then a year younger then me. I've been working with her for a summer job since June and I've never really thought of her as a girlfriend posibility. She has a brother who plays soccer with me and she comes to a lot of our games and after one game things got a bit strange.
She said something like "hey, great game you played awesome" and I never really thought too much about it and continued on to my car. When I was driving for a bit my friend who had come to watch asked me who the girl was......I of course just said a girl I work with and the guy on my team's sister. Then he said "i think she likes you man" and I of course was shocked so I asked why. And he said just the way she was looking at me and everything and her voice.
I couldn't see well because she was in one of the cars I was walking by but he was behind me and saw her well. If that's all that happened then I'd say what you guys will probably say..."that probably doesn't mean she likes you" kinda thing. I wouldn't blame you but now that I think about it I honnestly think he might be right. We talk all the time when we work together and I always make her laugh. We hung out a bit last weekend at the soccer field, there was a tourney goin on and she said somethin that kinda surprised me. For some reason we got to talking about jerseys for soccer and she said something about the inside of her's and she said something like I'll let you see the inside later.(she was wearing it at the time we were talking with a lot of ppl around)
It's probably nothing but some people would say that's almost flirting. I just don't know what to think anymore. I feel me and her have a really good connection and I could for sure picture myself dating her. It's almost like it was meant to be. I'm no romantic or anything but we just seem to fit perfectly and in the past week or two I think I've started to like her. I know that enormous ammount of description probably had a lot of detail(too much probably) but what I tried to portray is that I think she likes me though it's rather hard to describe what I mean.
What I want to know is what should I do? I mean if I ask her out or something and it turns out she doesn't like me then things could get weird. I just want to know either way from her how she feels about me and then I could go from there. I wouldn't be crushed if she didn't maybe a little dissapointed but I think something may work between us. It's just something I can't explain. So all I want to know is what in your opinion do you think I should do?
I have a whole how-to on going from friend to boyfriend-girlfriend -
and it definitely doesn't say to leap into asking someone out if you aren't even sure how they feel for you :) :)
Of course you guys like each other! You are friends. Friends like each other. All great relationships start with great friendships. Liking someone isn't an on-off switch, it is a long continuum that starts with 'willing to wave' all the way up to 'willing to marry'.
So you guys like each other, you want to know if she will like you more with time. The way to find out is to spend more time with her. There are all sorts of ways to do that as friends, so that should be your aim right now.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com