My partner left me for another guy.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I'm gay and I've been living with my partner (she claims she is not gay and just happened that she fell inlove with me)for six years. Three months ago she moved out claiming that she fell out of love with me and that she is confused about whether to spend her life with me or live a normal life. At that time she claimed there was no other person involved. During the break we would see each other and we spent time together. Three weeks ago she told me that she dated a guy right after she moved out of the house for about two weeks (a coworker) and something happened between the two of them sexually. She is claiming that she did it mainly because she wants to know if she wants a guy or me. She also did not deny the fact that she liked this guy. The last year of our relationship was pretty bad we were constantly arguing and this is also her other reason for leaving. But now we are back together for the about a month and spending quality time together. I just can't help to feel scared that what if someday she gets confused again. Is her leaving me and started seeing another guy right away considered cheating given our situation being different and her being confused? Is it worth it giving it another try? Should I believe all the reasons she is giving me or she left me for another person?
Only you can decide whether to believe her reasons. Only you can decide whether you love her and will forgive and trust.
You should really work on the arguing problem. This is probably the core of your situation. Make sure you are fighting fairly... if you don't know how, do a google on FIGHTING FAIR.
Once you resolve the fighting issue, most of your other problems will probably clear up.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com