Flirting with the Hot Guy
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I know this really hot guy but there are two problems; I'm two years older than him and Secondly his friend likes me.
I know we may have a chance to have something but I think he doesn't want to cuz his friend.
I really like him, I used to like his friend, not anymore. And I don't want anybody to get hurt.
What should I do? Should I flirt with him? Let him go? or just pretend to be his friend.
OK, first off, I don't see any problem here. Two years? If you were 10 and he was 8 that might be an issue. But I'm assuming you're of dating age, and 2 years are hardly anything at all when you're dating. It all comes down to if you like each other and get along together.
It's good that you're sensitive to the friend issue but again that is a normal, common part of dating. People are always dating the friends of their exs or the sisters or their last date or so on. People hang out in groups and naturally tend to date other group members. So yes, the friend might like you and you might to have used to like the friend. But you work through these things and end up with the person best suited to you. If everybody refused to date friends of exs, we would be a very lonely world!
It's always best to be friends first, and to build on that friendship. That way the friend gets used to the idea slowly and doesn't have it crashed on his head. Who knows, by the time you are an item with Hot Guy, the friend may have already found someone new.
I have advice on the friend-to-love thing -
just take it slow and see how it goes!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com