Is it games or is he confused?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I dated this guy for a few months. At first things were great, we got along and spent everyday together. After a while we argued pretty much all the time mostly because the relationship happened shortly after my father died and I was very needy and the relationship went way too fast. Well the arguing came and went, there were good days and bad. Finally he said he felt we should be friends after he had a bad day and I was nagging him to tell me why he was taking it out on me. Anyways, three days went by after breaking up and he messaged me on AIM and we started to talk again. Its been about two months since we broke up and we talk pretty much every day and see each other a few times a week.(he is the one who always is initiating the hanging out and talking) I guess I dont really understand. I have dated other guys and they dont act like this, usually they go there own ways. I dont understand why he wants to talk and see me so much. I have tried to ignore him and he just keeps putting more effort in. He even made it work with his friends to come to my Birthday get together.
There was one incident where he made a rude comment about checking out other girls which I called him out on because I didnt feel it was appropriate and he backed down and said sorry. I think he was trying to make me jealous.
I guess the hard part of all this is that I still have alot of feelings for him. Hanging out is fun and I love his hugs i get before we part but it hurts for the next few days cause i dont know what he wants or if i am just there to keep him busy till he finds someone else.
I am torn btw walking away before I get left or being friends and seeing where it goes.
Think ahead about a year from now.
Do you see yourself happily being his GF? If you do then you should be his friend and see what happens. Same thing if you look ahead and see yourself as friends.
But, if you look ahead and don't want to be his friend or GF the walk away now.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com