what to do friend or part time lover?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
thanks for the help a while back. but now ive a new prob. the same guy .... we talk evry now and then when i have time exchanged addys and he aded me on his page. the prob is i dnt want to get caught up in him hes really nice bt does have a gf and i have a bf - we have an open relationship bcuz im still nt sure he's what i want though he is my best friend . we have soo much in common bt nothing special has happened over the while weve ben together , we havent gne physical yet bcuz of that i dnt want to ruin our friendship. he agrees it feels weird to b with me as a gf. , we cant even hug like we used to. usually i end up with someone who doesnt know me or isnt interested bt drew likes me for all that he know about me i admire that and i feel almost the same about him except somethins missing, and just like jay we have things in common he's getting to know me , vice versa bt doest know me like drew does, hes interested in getting to know me bt im nt sure he likes me.
i like jay, bt i have my bf drew. i have no intention of hurting him or getting hurt. jay makes some of the same mistakes that drew does bt when he does it it bothers me bt wen drew does it doesnt matter as much -possibly bcuz im used to drew. should we go to physical not far bt kissing becuz nothings happening or am i wrong for making a decision based on this exictement i want? what do i do about jay, where he lives ill prob never get to see him unless he came on a plane to visit. what does this mean- i was mad at jay for sumtin i deleted him off of my page , then he didint know bucuz he made a new one seemed to have added me first then uon finding out i deleted him did it back bt kindly responded my mail i sent either the same day or day after. (however u can never really b sure there both big flirts lol)
My advice is to stick with Drew, or if you get tired of him find someone new.
Give Drew more of a chance in the physical department.
As far as Jay goes, he's so far away he is out of the picture. Plus he has a girlfriend.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com