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Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I recently started hanging around this guy who once dated my so-called friend (i really never liked her-she was the complete opposite of me and we didn't mesh well). The thing is, me and this guy had never been friends before (in fact he avoided me and thought I was too "out there") and then all the sudden he starts calling me everyday and wanting to hang out. At first, I was really uncomfortable and didn't really like him around me. But as things progressed, he started sharing things with me, and then I started sharing things with him and we started to get close. He said he wants to meet my family, and has invited me to stay with him and meet his. However, I'm not entirely sure that I like him myself because I recently got over someone and I like the whole freedom thing (and i don't want to get hurt), but sometimes I find myself wanting him. Bad. We have such good conversations and I feel we have great chemistry for being so different, and he makes me happy. We haven't done anything physical (except sometimes we lay together on the couch or hold hands) and it drives me crazy. We'll have great nights with great conversations and touching, but then other nights he'll talk about his ex-girlfriend and how much she hurt him and how much he hates her (because now she's dating someone else seriously). It's a huge turn-off and a huge problem. I recently told him that I think we shouldnt talk about her anymore, and he hasn't since, but I feel like I'm rebound girl (even though they broke up 6 months ago). Do you think he's into me but too afraid he'll get hurt again? Or is he seriously still in denial and needs therapy? Or maybe we both just want a physical relationship? Is there any safe route I can take so i'm satisfied and our friendship doesn't get ruined? HELP
My advice is to test the physical side.
Next time you are on the couch, kiss him on the neck and see what he does. Kiss him several times if you have to.
This should either propel your relationship or point out some deficiencies.
You will then know how to proceed.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com