Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i met a guy named jk a while ago. he's cool. we have alot in common were friends. however i think i like him. im cynical about relationships so i think that i may b feeling the affects of lust or excitement.hes cute ... ive flirted with guys who i think are hotter but dnt gt the same feeling. im attracted to his art, muiscal skills ect things im interested in. upside hes easy to tlk to downside he has a gf. im basically single i go out with a few guys. i wondered how serious he and his gf are- i hate the thought of intruding on their relationship bcuz ive ben cheated on and id never want that for his gf or him. but i get the feeling that she may not have that much in common with him, is kind of possesive and cares for him. im not sure if its morally right. or if its right that im a bit sad he isnt single bt happy were can b friends. should i ask him about their relationship though it will make both of us kind of uncomfortable or should i just stay his friend and wait till something happens if it does.
You are good to be so moral. Many people are not.
My advice is to remain his friend and every once in a while ask him how his girlfriend is doing. Eventually he will start to open up with you and discuss his relationship. Based on this you can determine how to proceed.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com