Seriously I NEED HELP
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
ok here it goes. i met this girl back in june because we worked together one day. we only worked for an hour together and i asked her for her cell number and she gave it to me and i gave her mine. i figured this girl must like me enough to give me her number. we go to different schools but were in the same grade. at this point she is taken by another guy and i didn't know.
I have not worked with her since so i had to keep going to visit her while she worked to talk to her to get to know her better. i've called her phone but she never picks up. When we talk we get along so well and we have never fought about anything. She just broke up with her boyfriend like a month ago because he cheated on her so shes single now. i asked her out toward the end of august and she thought i was joking but i wasn't. i never got a real answer if she wanted to or not.
the thing is i cant tell if she likes me or not. when we talk face to face i feel like we get along really well but when we dont talk for a couple days it gets really awkward. theres nothing i can do sometimes because we dont work together ever when we should, we don't go to the same school, and she doesn't pick up her cell. i feel like she led me on. anytime i ask her if she wants to hangout sometime she never gives me a straight answer. its always "i think im busy that day". sometimes when i talk to her on AIM she says "hey" right back to me and then i'll say "wut sup"? and she doesn't answer back sometimes.
She really confuses me because one time when i went to visit her at work her ex was there and they were talking. this was on the same day as my birthday. I didn't want to talk to her while her ex was there. I said hi and bye basically and left. When i get home later that day she wrote on my myspace"HEY you didn't tell me it was your Birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY I Love You" So i obviously know she likes me. about a week later i tried to make plans with her again and she didn't want to. I really like this girl and i dont want to blow it by doing something stupid. I honestly feel like she likes me as a friend but nothing more. I just want to know what i can do to make her like me more. I feel likee i've done everything i can to get her to like me. is there something i should be doing that im not?
You have done everything right so far. So don't blame yourself.
My guess is that she likes you as a friend and you should continue trying but realize that nothing may come of it.
Keep in mind that there are some important aspects of a good relationship: share information (communication), share feelings (compassion), and be affectionate (smile, laught, hug, compliment.)
It would be a lot easier if you went to the same school. Bad luck :(
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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