Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I need some help because I'm stuck in a acward situation. anywayz, I'm 16 years old & I live in Colorado. Iv'e heard friendz that talked about long-distance relationships here & there. They usually say they don't work out. But I never thought that I would end up in that situation. Now I am! this is how it is.....
I just finished my sophmore year of high school & I planned to go stay in Texas the whole summer with my older sister. I arrived in Texas & I ended up meeting this special girl. Not only did I meet her, I felt like it was love at first sight. We met at a church & it was actually just hours after I arrived in Texas. So we met the very day I got there! To make a long story short. We started talking for a few weeks then the next thing you know. We hooked up. She knew that I wasn't from Texas & she at first didn't want to be with me. She knew If she got with me I would have to one day leave her cause I have to go back home. I ended up loving it so much in Texas I asked my sister if I could just stay with her until my parents move to Texas next year. We plan on moving to Texas next year anywayz. So she said it was okay. That was the deal, I was going to be able to stay & I didn't have to go back. So we did hook up. I was with her the whole three months of summer. Then the unexpected happened though. It turned out that I couldn't stay after all because of money & stuff. So I was really devistated about the news when I found out. I ended up telling her. She got so sad & started crying. I tryed to tell her I'm sorry & I told her I didn't know it was going to be that way. Her & I fell in love so much though. We decided not to break up. She told me that she would wait for me until me & my parents move down there next summer. I told her I would do the same cause I don't want to be with any other girl.
Now here I am....
I'm back home in Colorado, & my girlfriend is thousands of miles away in Texas. I'm going down to visit around Christmas time. Hopefully I'll get to see her. That's about 4 months from now. Then after that, about 5 months after that I'll be going back to stay/live. This is my question though......oh wait, I have to say a few more things before I get to the point........
She lives with her grandparents & they are really strict with her. She is 16 & she still is not allowed to have any boyfriends! So the whole summer that I was dating her. We were kind of hiding it from her grandparents. Now that I'm back. They just recently found out about us. Surprizingly there okay with it. Her grandma's got this wierd thing though. she told her that sence she's getting older she can have a bf. She just can't date! Don't make any sence to me! from what my girl told me, she said that what her grandma means by that is. I can't go pick her up & go on a date with her, or take her out tell she's 18. Her grandma's afraid that if she ever ended up "Alone" with a guy she would mess up & have sex or somethin ya know. But hey, that's the last thing on my mind. all I want is to see my girl! I mean geez! Can't I atleast do that! So anywayz, getting to the point here....
When I go down for Christmas I'm really gona want to see her like I said. she told me she don't want to lie to her grandma no more. But I'm thinking. Well damn, If she can't date/go-out until she's 18 how am I going to see her. So I feel like just telling her to lie or not tell her grandma that I'm in town the week i'm there. But she said she don't want to lie. So I don't want to force her to lie or do something wrong just to see her. But it's either that or I don't see her at all. So I guess my question is. What do I do??? What should I tell her??? Is it simple & I just don't know it??? please help me out........If I go there, I have to see her. If I don't. I don't think I'm going to make it!
I read your email several times and the answer is simple.
Go down there for Christmas and spend most of your time over at her grandmother's house. Grandma's rules have not been broken and you get to see your girlfriend. You will probably get some opportunities to make out even.
If I misunderstood your meaning, please email back (but not using the reply function of your email.)
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com