I told her i loved her and, its become really confusing
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I have fancied this girl, for over 2 years. About 6 months ago i finally told her.
Our friendship has been quite hard, weve had lots of rough patches and fall outs, but no matter what, weve always come out of them all and become close friends again, more each time we make friends again.
Anyway, i told her i loved her, when i tried to patch things up the last time we had a serious fall out. I know she said she was flattered, but she doesnt do well in any relationship, and if we werent so platonic, then things could be different but there not. She also went to say that, even though she told me she hated me, she didnt mean it and it was a coping mechanism to hate someone whos an important friend. She also said she missed our jokes, arguments, chats and so-on.
Whats made things even harder now, is that weve been meeting up, a few times on our own, in the past 2 weeks we went to the cinema, and we was feeding our ice cream to each other in the pitch black. We also wouldnt stop talking and making smart comments and being our usual sarcastic selves about the film. Sometimes we were centimeters from each others noses.
Ive also notice that when we walk, sometimes we keep clashing hands and she just says sorry, smiles, looks down and looks back up straight infront of her.
But, theres also something else. Sometimes we can be really snappy with each other, and we cant stop arguing. We'll be fine with every person in the world, but we just cant stop arguing with each other, and neither of us no why. Maybe its some form of tension, i dont know. Also, we tend to take things out on each other and only each other. Its asif, like above, fine with everyone else, but we'll take things out and snap at each other, but when weve broke through it, we'l be laughing and practically ignoring everyone else, talking laughing and in our own conversations, even if were in a group.
ive never told her WHY i love her either, i just said i did. Ive sacrificed alot just for our friendship and, she means the world to me.
Thanks in advance,
Perhaps the snappishness is a result of sexual tension building up.
It's time to start holding hands with her and giving her kisses on the cheek soon followed by a kiss on the mouth. The movies sound like the perfect spot for that.
Try that and see if it reduces the snappishness.
Good luck! George
p.s. also give hugs to each other.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com