He smoked and lied, again!
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My bf and I will be going out for four months in 10 days.. but it isn't going to last 10 more days. As much as I don't want to do it, i have to break up with him. A month ago he smoked, and promised never to do it again. i hate cigs because my father died from them. So obviously the promise meant a lot to me. But i found out that he smoked 20cigs the other day! So i called him asking if he did and he lied and said no, in fear I would break up with him. And somehow he ended up getting mad at me. My head and everything I stand for says to break up with him. Even though i still love him, I know I need to. I wanted to say something like thins. "As much as I don't want to do this, I think that we will be better off as friends. You broke a promise that meant a lot to me and then lied about it. Other things have happened too. I just don't think that we are compatible." I don't know how to break up with him because i still want to be friends(we were before)...can you help me?
At his age he should be able to break a habit since it isn't ingrained yet.
Say to him just what you said in your message to me. It is honest, sincere and straight to the point.
He doesn't respect you enough to keep his promise or to tell the truth.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com