logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
Love doesn't sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new. --Ursula K. LeGuin



Did I screw up too badly??



Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend and I were on again off again for about 10 months. About 2 weeks ago during a time when we were off again but still hooking up and hanging out a LOT she went out on a second date with a guy she was fixed up with. After that date she called me and told me that if we continued the way we currently were that she may as well get back together with me. I agreed but she said no she had to give this guy a real chance and because of that she wanted to sever ties with me for the "forseeable future". We talked long into the night but eventually said goodbye to each other in tears and I was crushed. For lack of anything better to do (this was my first relationship so I had nothing to go on and no one to turn to for advice) I sent her an e-mail asking her some questions that I hadn't though to ask when we were on the phone. The next morning I IMed her to ask her if she had read it and she answered the questions over IM. Then I asked her if she was still sure she didn't want to speak to me and she said "no I still want to be able to talk to you" I agreed to it again because I had no idea how bad that could be. I realized over the next two weeks that she was getting far to comfortable with me as her "best friend". Twice over the next two weeks I asked her to get back with me and each time her reactions were not good. She always says "Now is not the right time" when I ask when will be the right time she says "I don't know". I asked if that was a nice way of saying never and she said "I won't say never because who knows what can happen..." The worst was this passed wednesday I took her out for lunch and just as I dropped her off back at her house I told her again that I wanted her back. Her answer was "Thank you for lunch" and she got out of the car. She didn't call me again until Friday afternoon (in fact she ignored me until Friday). When we finally spoke Friday she said "I mad the decision not to talk to you as much because obviously you aren't getting over me they way we are".

Here's my plan:

I'm going to NOT call her for a month. During that time I am going to work on myself as a person (physically and mentally). I'm going to date other people (at leats 2 people unless of course i meet somoen who makes me forget all about my ex) and I am going to focus on getting a better job to solidify my financial position. Then after 30 days I am going to see where she is at. If she is single I am going to try and slide back in. Maybe call her and ask her out for a quick coffee and then slowly ease back into dating. DO you think 30 days is enough to clean the slate for the fact that I pushed so much?

Did I screw up too badly?

-- Screw Up :-(




RomanceClass.com Advice
I think your plan is perfect.

You are giving her plenty of time to think things over and for you to work on yourself. She should be impressed by the improvements you will make.

Make a serious effort to do this and don't hesitate. "He who hesitates is lost!"

Hope this turns out well for you! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




Visitor Submitted Responses
Our RomanceClass visitors have chimed in with thoughts on this question and answer. Click on a link below to read what their solutions are!

Don't rebound

Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - I Want my Ex Back

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

Italian Wedding