I love my boyfriend yet there's this guy
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
okay I'm 14 & yeah I'm having a bad prob... I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 1yr and we're really close. yet everytime summer comes around we tend to break-apart little by little, * I've known him for 2yrs we were good friends before we started our relationship cuz we wanted to make sure it would work* anyway during the summer I'm in 4-H
and there's this guy that I've known for about 3yrs and I liked him a lot before me and my boyfriend were together... and lately me and my 4-H friend have been closer than me and my boyfriend, my boyfriend is 15 and he works the whole summer so I can't see him at all and that's really hard on me cuz I've never felt this way about someone, yet my 4-H friend has been there for me everytime that my boyfriend isn't and the problem is, is that I'm growing closer and closer to my 4-H friend even though he lives a long ways away and he's 3yrs older than me. But the main thing is that I know you guys would want me to talk to my boyfriend about what I'm going through and all, but the problem there is that he works on his grandparents ranch and their really into no new technology and so I don't have a way to get in touch with my boyfriend, I haven't talked to him in a month and it's really hard on me now because I sometimes forget who it is that I talk to on the computer *my 4-H friend* and my friend knows what I'm going through and everything and sometimes he tells me he loves me just at random times to make me go through things easier... and fair happens to be coming up soon and I'm afraid that if I hang around my friend to much that something might happen that I won't be able to stop, and I don't want that to happen but I don't want to avoid my friend either. So I looked for 2 days on this site to read through everything and see if there was anything like this going on and I couldn't find any... I love my boyfriend I've told him that and he's told me he loves me too, I'm just afraid that sometime during fair I'm going to foget which guy I'm really talking to and hanging out with, cuz they have the same personality... What should I do, I want to stay really good freinds with my 4-H friend
but I don't want to do anything stupid either... my 4-H friend was the first one I had when I started 4-H and I don't want to hurt him either, and he knows what I'm going through, but I can't get a hold of my boyfriend in any way and I need your advice on what to do, like should I stay close with my friend or what I should do cuz I don't want someone to say something at school and make my boyfriend think I cheated on him... I'm really sorry bout this but I'm confused I've never felt this way about anyone, the way I do with my boyfriend and I don't want that to change, but I only get to see my 4-H friend once a year. please help and sorry it's so long I just wanted you to understand what I'm going through right now and have been for the past 2 months.
Sorry you are in this situation.
There are two ways you could reach your BF: by regular mail and by phone.
If you can do this you should tell him what is going on and come to an agreement between you.
If you can't contact him then my advice is to stick with your boyfriend because you would have terrible feelings thinking about telling him when school starts up again. Also, your 4-H friend is a summer romance and you should be careful of those types of romances.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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