Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've just got married this year and we've been in a relationship for 8 years.my partner confess to me that he has another child before we got married and he told me that they had no communication to them at all long before. so, i accept him. i just found out today that he lied to me because his friend told me that he always bring that child to his parents house long before since we are still boyfriend and girlfriend. he never told me about that they we're close to each other. now, that we have already a son. i'm angry when he's giving attention to that other child. and i'm angry to my partner for lying to me for 8 years that we've been together. i don't want that he has another to think of aside from us. i cannot accept the situation that i've been thru. i'm always mad at him. doubt him where ever he go or who he will call. I have no peace of mind. what should i do?
I am sorry you are in this situation.
A good thing for you to do would be to seek help from a professional counselor. You can find them in the yellow pages.
I think you need someone who has the skills to help you and who you can talk to face to face.
One bit of advice I have... you are dealing with something that has already happened and exists. Being angry is natural, but it only makes you feel sad and depressed. Try to be happy about what you have and put a lot of attention on your own child. This will make you feel better.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com