am i always going to be second best
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I started dating this girl I work with for the past three months. She just got out of a long relationship of 6 years but never was married. They have a house and 2 dogs they treat as their own children. When I met her we totally hit it off and at the time I figured I was just a rebound anyway. She told me I am not a rebound. Well we were inseperable for a month and she told me no one as ever made her this happy in her life. The ex never supported her deciosns and always belitted her. Well when she went back to the house about a minth later to get some things he was there. Since then she has had these crazy feelings about going back, giving it another shot. She says she feels guilty for walking out and not giving it a shot that she gave up. She also told me even if she did want to go back he wouldnt take her back at least not rightn ow. Here I am stuck in the middle and not knowing what to do. I have caught her in some lies that she doesnt know about. She is unhappy with herself and I can fel her unraveling. I tried to walk away but she doesnt want to lose me. I told her maybe she has to go back to realize but tehn she says half of her doesnt want to. I try to tell her to go back and remember how she felt when she made the decision. She made the decison for a reason. I told her she didnt give up on him that he did it to her. Anyways I feel like I have no idea what to do. Do I stick it out or do I walk away?
Tell her you want to break off your relationship so that she can figure out what she wants. Tell her that if she chooses you it has to be a whole-hearted decision without the wishy-washy attitude she is showing now.
This will hopefully get you out of the middle.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com