Im Driving Her Away
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I have been with my gf for about 7 months now and i couldnt be happier we have the best times together and i love her with all my heart, like i know im young but i really do think she is the one and i don't want to let her go because of my jealousy.I really do need help i kind of figured that out recently after one of our 400 fights because of me being too jealous.I have a problem with letting her go out with her friends to parties, clubs etc. because I am scared of her doing something wrong.Like a part of me does trust her and knows she is not going to do anything wrong but another part of me thinks shes is. Everytime she calls me to tell me that she is going to a party for example I blow up on her and go crazy quickly telling her i dont want her to go while every bad thing that could possibly happen goes through my head, we get into a big fight and then at the end of it i tell her im sorry and that im going to change but i never do and i can tell she is quickly getting tired of it and she doesnt deserve me acting like this when she hasn't done anything wrong for me to be like this. I really do want to change not only for her but for myself but i cant seem to do it. I dont want to loose her because of my stupidity and i really do feel that next time its going to be too late and where going to break up.I dont know how to go by changing and not being SUPER jealous i dont want to be like this but it is really hard she is trying to help me with it and told me as long as I am trying she is not going to leave.Can u give me some advice on what to do please it would really REALLY help.
Jealousy is a terrible thing for both people. It can easily break up a relationship.
You have to fight jealousy like an enemy. Every time jealous feelings or thoughts come upon you, tell them to go away immediately... and if they come back right away tell them again. Tell them your girlfriend loves you and that is all that matters After 100 times, the jealousy should give up the fight and go away.
Meanwhile, go to this webpage and read all about trust. It will help:
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com