what should i do? this is really hard!!!!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i met this guy earlier this year at a party for a band that i wantd to join. my best friend had introduced us. i could tell he was shy and for some reason he made me nervous. we spoke only a few times afterward. i gave him my pik. he told my other friend (shes in the band)that we were bf and gf when he did not tell me. later he said that he doesnt think we are bf and gf , we didnt even talk because i had no way of getting to him or a phn. (i went away for two weeks and my bestf told me he was crushed bcuz he wantd to c me)finally when i did get one i gave him my num in an e-mail. he didnt txt me or call. id e-mail him and he'd never reply. i was shocked when he asked me if i liked him and i said yes. after a few weeks i found out his phn wasnt working(no mins) so i wasnt too upset. bt i txtd him when he got some he answered bt only short answers no real convo, i did much of the talking. after a while i thought id give up. bt i still wanted to pursue. his relative told me he isnt the kind of boy who will come up to me. i didnt flirt much with him when i did get to see him because he made me nervous. he talked to me though and asked for a hug i went home happy as ever. at least until another member of the band became my friend. we started talking and i saw us as just cool bt he wantd more. i still dont feel much toward him although i wanted to sleep with him. but nothing more . we talk all the time but he just isnt my type . i have a more sexual feelin toward him. the guy i liked must have found out we were friends bt to other people it appeared as more than friends bcuz we were talking alot. im nt sure what happened. i txtd him saying how i feel bt he didnt respond. i found out he deleted me off of his hi5 page and im sure off of evrything else. i dont kno if i still like him. i want to go to watch the band and find out bt im afraid of what will happen. i dont think he likes me anymore . however the guy i made friends with, he and i had plans to do something (like bone) bt i didnt want to do it becuz i felt like i wantd to b with the other guy also i wanst sure i wantd to do that with him i still saw him as just a friend. i told him we should call it off and still be cool. he doesnt talk to me as easily or as much bt i understand. SHOULD I go to watch the band and find out if im still crushing on this guy and talk to him or should i give my friend a chance or not be with either one of them.
Go watch the band and see if you are still crushing on him.
My guess is that you still are and that you need to be more aggressive to let him know that you care. Write him a note and give it to him and tell him straight out how you feel about him.
Maybe that will do the trick! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com