Wanting outside opinion
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I met this girl at work we are both married but both arent happily married, she has been cheated on several times and she cheated on him once after she found out he was. She has three kids i dont have any, she is 27 i am 26. The last two weeks we have been flirting some, She always
seems to smile when she sees me and i smile right back, she has been doing a new job and i always tell her she did a good job when she was doing something she wasnt sure of, and we joked around with each other alot making each other laugh, the one night she was tired and put her head on my
shoulder and i put my arm around her, we whisper things about co-workers in each others ear, she has complimented me, one of the things she said she was comfortable with me helping her learn the new job, but anyone else made
her nervous, the job she was doing she gets dirty, while she was with me she would be patting the dust out of her jeans. She would also be fixing her hair, the first couple days she was wearing a hat then that disappeared. The last day she was going to be doing this job she stayed with me for four hours after she could have went home to talk and such. She has told me things that have happened in her marriage, i told her the things that i am not happy with in mine. She has left him once for six months, but the house she was living in burned down and she ended up back with him. That night while we were taking break together she told me places she would like to move, one was florida because her best friend lives there and right after she said this she asked if i would move with her, i of course said yes. After that she said to the rest of our co-workers at the table to excuse us while we are flirting. She has also just nodded her head toward something i amazingly knew exactly what she was thinking. Before she left that friday night she stayed with me so long she told me she would come visit me on monday night, which ended up being wednesday night because she didnt get done working till really late the other two nights but she didnt have to come in there she just came in to talk to me, though it wasnt very long, before she left this time she said she would be back in the next night. The visits had continued for a total so far of three times in two weeks. She knows i am getting seperated and asks me if i still doing that. One day i saw her walking down the hallway toward me and she gave me one of those looks with her head kinda down looking at at me and smiling the whole time she was walking toward me, i was also smiling at her the whole time, we talked a little there but she had to get back to work. I think she wants more then just a friendship but, i think things through way too much and want someone elses opinion on this. Thank you for anything you can tell me
I think she wants out of her marriage and needs a home for herself and three kids. She seems to have chosen you as a possibility.
It is way too soon in your relationship to be getting that serious. If you rebound with each other the odds are it won't last.
Each of you should find your own living space and date for a year after your divorces are finalized. Then, if you are still into each other, go for it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com