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After much persuastion and on the pretext of visiting his new place, I flew overseas to meet him. I stayed at his place for two weeks and went out with our friends. During the course of my stay, he tried making my visits pleasant and memorable. But nothing else happened. He planned some of my trips while we were there. He paid for almost all my meals.... He cooked and shared his food with me. He touched me playfully on my back, shoulders and hand. but I never responded. He questioned my friend heavily about my personal life. Sometimes, I thought I had clear cut signals that he likes me. but other times, I don't. I get very mixed signals from him, so, I didn't quite know how to proceed from here. I did send very clear signals, like putting his place in proper order like ironing his shirts... but, having evaluated my actions, I do admit that I send mixed signals. How do I get closer to him? It's as though each time we are close enough to cross the line, he pushes me away. He is single but attached to someone else for the present time (bf-gf). Please advise. Advice
What a strange situation.

First of all he has a GF which makes one wonder why you are spending two weeks with him and semi-flirting back and forth.

What kinds of messages are you two supposed to be sending? That you like each other? You already know that. Crossing the line is where you seem to be at odds. You are the one who never responded to his touchings. So you seem realize that his GF stands in the way. And, how is he supposed to know what is going on in your head just because you iron his shirts?

Don't expect too much of your relationship so long as his GF is in the picture.

Good luck! George

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