Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend i will be getting along famously and then i will say one thing that happens to be not to his agreement and he doesnt just disagree he gets pissed. like so angry he starts screaming at me, hangs up if were on the phone. He always gets like "oh i knew this was going to turn into a fight" and it didnt have to at all he always takes it there though and i try to calm him down but theres no use. He also has been begging me to move in with him, but sometimes the way he talks to me and treats me makes me second guess myself and wonder what im doing with him. but then again at the same time i couldnt imagine myself happy without him, i really love him but i wish he would cool his jets.
Counselling may help him but maybe not.
He is unlikely to change his ways because he probably learned that behavior from his family. Do you want your children to hear him acting out and learn how to deal with disagreement through shouting? I doubt it.
My advice is to tell him that he needs professional counselling and if he is unwilling to get it then show him the door.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com