Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am dating a guy for about 5 months, I am 25 and he is 35, only last month that I came to know the fact that he is not a bachelor. He was divorced 6 years ago with a 7 yrs daughter whom raised by his mother oversea and therefore he has never met his daughter for the last 5 years. His ex wife re-married 5 yrs ago and has 2 kids with the new hubby, his ex wife does not care about her daughter and never look after her ever since she divorced with my guy.
I am so young and I have failed many relationships before and frankly, I really wish to get married soon because I am tired of being broken hearted. My guy kept his secret to me for 4 months because he was afraid that I would have rejected him in the first place. When he told me the truth, I was shocked but it did not take me long to ease my pain. I calmed down and then I told him that I promise to be a good and faithfull wife and also a new mom to her daughter. But strangely, my guy seems to avoid me ever since. He did not welcome my good intention well but he told me not to interfere with his daughter’.s problems. He said that his kid may not welcome me well. After that incident, he is keeping a distance with me, he used to call me a lot, cared to me well but since the last 2 weeks, he never called me if I did not call him. He gets angry a lot and it make me so angry !!!
I feel that all my good intentions were not appreciated. What should I do??? What he is doing now really hurts me, to be frank, if from the start, I knew that he was not a bachelor, I will not accept him but time flies and I have put a lot efforts to make this relations works and I started to fall in love dearly….….why he does not appreciate me at all ??? what should I do because he never called me since last 2 weeks? Does he want a break up or what ?? it is very hard to understand him. Do you think he will marry me ??
Thank you so much.
It seems everything was going smoothly until you started talking about marriage and his daughter.
Perhaps he was not thinking of marriage and perhaps he doesn't want a closer relationship with his daughter.
From the way he is acting now, he will not marry you and my advice is to drop him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com