Flirting With the Guys
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
HI my name is Ty and I need help I don't know what I want. By that I mean I can't just have 1 boyfriend and not talk to other guys. It's hard and the thing about is that I don't wanna be like that cuz when it's done to me I hate it and it make me feel bad but it makes me feel bad when I do it to them. I just don't know how to handle it help me.
It comes down to feeling good about yourself. Yes, it's fun to flirt with the guys because then they say nice things about you and it really makes you happy. That's a nice feeling. But on the other hand being with your *boyfriend* should make you happy. You shouldn't need other guys praising you to feel happy. So if the only way you can be happy is to have OTHER guys flirting with you, you need to work on the ways you find happiness in life.
Sure, you can talk with other guys and have other guys as friends. That's a normal part of life! But if you start actively flirting with other guys seriously, you're disrespecting your boyfriend. You're showing the world that you really don't care that much about him, because instead of being with him you're out looking for someone new.
So spend the time with your boyfriend. Do fun things together! Enjoy the world! When your boyfriend can't be there, sure, be friends with other guys. But think of how much you love your boyfriend and miss him, and find other hobbies to do if you find yourself getting to serious with other guys. There are all sorts of ways you can choose to spend your time, and messing around with other guys shouldn't be one of them.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com