is he faithful or am i just jealous
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I am in love with my boyfriend, he is my first love. He is always texting and talking to other girls though. I have read through his messages before and seen how he was "flirt talking" with them. i have told him this bothers me and his response is "can i not have girls that are friends". im not trying to be the jealous type i am just scared i am going to get hurt. he swears he loves me too and there is nothing to worry about but im not sure if i can trust that. do you think i am being unresonable and getting worked up over nothing? or is there another way i should talk to him about it? or should i drop it an assume he isnt just playing me? im confused about the whole deal. everyone has different advice for me. other guys say he just wants sex other girls say maybe he isnt into me as much as i am him and the adults say he wouldnt be with me if there wasnt some kind of love in it.....any advice?
Explain to him that he is going beyond friendship with these girls.
Tell him you are hurt by his behavior and you want him to stop.
You will have to decide what to do if he doesn't stop. Or, worry that if you give him that message he may stop caring for you.
All of the advice you have been getting is reasonable. Nobody can tell what will work best or is closer to the truth.
Start off by talking with him more about it so he is sure that you care for him but you are hurt by his actions. Maybe something will change.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com