Why am i jealous and why dont i trust her, when im the one snooping??
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
my girlfriend is on cruise and she met this other guy there, she told me and her family that she thought he was really creepy and was going to try and avoid him. she told me she was going to a show with him that night but didnt really want to, her parents have been emailing her and she has been emailing them back telling them how the guy she met is really good looking and hes actually cool now, then i read one of her emails saying that she should get her grama who is with her to email her and see if she is telling the whole story, but i dont know what story, what happened?? its really hard for me to deal with this. Its almost all she is talking about in her emails with her parents and thats all there asking about. and i just really dont know what to do. should i just stop emailing her for a bit and let her miss me? i emailed her asking her if when she got back she wanted to go to a movie for her birthday but she just read it and didnt reply, and her mom was asking her if she still wanted me to go to her party. i dont know what there talking about but its making me worry alot. we love eachother and we both know it and shes never done anything to make me lose trust but the way she talks about this guy its like she actually likes him or something, it just upsets me to read that.. What should i do
You are going to have to bite the bullet and realize that going on a cruise and meeting a new boy is very exciting. It happens all the time.
Your role is to remain cool, let her come back and tell you what she wants to and then drop it.
Any other path is going to lead you to hurt and sadness. It isn't easy to bear, but you should be strong enough to take it.
Let her know you were jealous but that you understand how it is and forgive her if she did anything "wrong."
This is a way to build character, so take advantage of it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com