Completely Lost and Confused
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a friend that I have really strong feelings for. In December he told me that he doesn't look at me 'like that' and that he could really break my heart. I was very beartbroken that night. At that point we remained very good friends and bought each other Christmas gifts. He would make comments about seeing other guys at times. He encouraged that I should have more positive male relationships and not just with him. In March I was hanging out with a bunch of different friends and I messed around with someone with the intentions of having a good time (I did not have sex with him). The next day my crush came to my house to give me my birthday gift. He asked about the night before and he wasn't as thrilled about it as I figured he might've been. I relieved his mind in telling him it didn't mean anything. We hung out the entire night and it was great. But now I am not sure where he stands as far as feelings go. We make jokes and flirt a lot, we dance around the subject of sex, but never really discussed it either. I am in love with this guy and I really want to make things work. But I know I cannot take his rejection twice. I don't know what I should say or do
If you really want to know, you will be taking the risk of getting rejected a second time.
If you are willing to wait then let things go as they have been, which has been pretty nice.
Once you get tired of waiting, tell him you are developing feelings for him again and see how he responds. Then you can decide what to do.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com