logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
Love will not always linger longest - With those who hold it in too clenched a fist. -- Alice Duer Miller



What did I do wrong? What should I do?



Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I have been going with my girlfriend(?) for almost three years. She is the love of my life. We have shared everything together. We have had a lot of fun. We have also had minor spats but always worked them out. One of her issues is trust because of her ex husband who sneaked around on her. One of my issues is disrespect because my ex wife towards the end showed me no respect.

Sometimes I am a reserved person and I think first before speaking. She feels sometimes I dont tell her everything and I keep secrets from her. Its not an attempt to be secretive, you just dont want to blurt the first thing in your head sometimes. About 18 days ago I was talking about something I heard about a relationship needing love and respect. I told her I had both for her. When she asked did I feel it in return, I was honest and said I knew she loved me, but sometimes I felt she disrespected me.

She at first laughed it off, but then got defensive asking me times, dates, and occassions. I said I could not give her every occassion, just every now and then she gets very snappy with me when I dont think I deserve it. We talked about it an hour, and worked it out. Came to the agreement the next time I felt disrespected I would tell her and we would work it out.

Had a great day that day. The next day she went to church and I did my chores. That evening I went and got dinner and a love card for her. At first before she opened the card she had a look of fear. (She always says i will break up with her but I have constantly reassured her I would tell her first) She read the card and laughed as it was funny.

Then she asks me how long I thought she disrespects me. I was aghast. I thought this issue was put to rest. I said, I dont know, maybe a month or two, but it was not so bad to the point I had to bring it to her attention and I had not thought about it till the previous day. She then walked away, came back and was visibly angry and upset. She told me that she felt my not telling her immediately was keeping this from her and told me to get out of her house.

I tried to talk it over with her but she would not even talk. Told me to leave. I got angry and did something I never do. I acted without thinking and put her house key on the table. As I walked out the door she threw my personal things in my face and closed the door. Up till then we never had a major dispute. She had never thown me out of the house. I took 4 days to cool down. I then called her and left a message. The next day I left her a text message. The next day I sent her an e-mail to home and work.

No reply. No repsonse. No nothing. It has been now 17 days and I have heard nothing since she threw me out. I miss her badly, but I have attempted to reach out to her with no response. I am caught between trying again or just leaving her alone till she contacts me, but in the back of my head I feel if three years had meaning to her she would have said something to me by now? Are we done and through?




RomanceClass.com Advice
Seems she has found a way of massively disrespecting you. She kicks you out of the house and then refuses to get into contact with you.

Her actions make no sense to me except possibly as a feeling that you had been secretive with her.

My advice is to leave her alone and wait for her to come back. If she doesn't then there is another example of disrespect.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com





Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - Breakup Issues

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

Italian Wedding