How can I get closer with him again

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Its been alomost 6 months now since the last time we've talked. We have worked together for almost 4 years in a small company. At first I thought he was just so friendly, he talked to me always, goes to my desk and message me on Outlook. I know that he has a girlfriend for 9 years because he also mentioned to me and even talked with her. He showed me kindness i must say during my stay their but never did i pay any attention or meaning as to why he's trating me that way. When i left the company we still talked and chat.. he attempted to ask me out so many times but i rejected it. But one of his invitation i said yes but didsdnt push through for some reason... im still hesitant. He says that he likes me and love me and care for me, i even ask him if he's making fun of me but he insisted that he wasnt. I must say that with those days, im falling out for him but hiding those feelings knowing that he's committed. One day, we chatted and asked me that we havent gone out yet and told me that he doesnt want how i treated him, because i must say that Im so mean to him. He got mad i guess, saying that im so dumb and stiff, and that he wants to go out with for a long time and he also mentioned that he was supposed to make me his full girlfriend but i didnt gave him a chance and he tried to. I loose my fuse that i said words such as losser and shame... he log out and few seconds came back saying that im real bad, and that i know that he laready has a girl, i said that i know, and he also said that i know that he has a feeling for me but im still talking to him, i said its nothing and he responded"maybe for you" i also said those words to hide my feelings but the truth is i already like him. He asked me one last chance if i wanted to go out with him and i said yes but as friends but he asked more than friends and that i only see him as a friend. He said we dont need to talk anymore and that he's goin to delete my contact. I said its okey and said goodbye. I asked him to just respect her girl that ended up the heart hurts that this things ended up and last week i accidentally saw him at facebook and i must say that i still have feelings for him.. i get jealous that he's talking to one of our office mate before which is a cousin of mine... and i see that he changed his e-mail... i miss him so much and that im sooo jealous knwing that hes talking to my cousin and not even bother to say hi or add me on his.. DOES HE HATES ME? DOES HE REALLY LIKES ME BEFORE? DOES HE HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME TILL NOW? WHAT DO YOU THINK please let me know... sorry for the long letter.. Advice
He has a girlfriend of nine years.

It seems he was trying to cheat on her with you.

You should be proud of yourself for doing the right thing and saying no to him.

Now you are considering getting him back. My advice is to stay away from him or just be a friend. If anything is meant to be, it will happen.

Good luck! George

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