To be or Not to be?That is the question.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hello! I only get to see my bf once a week (3 hours tops if I’m lucky) because of his mother. We are home schooled and take classes at this small bookstore our mother’s work at. I can only talk to him over the phone like every 3 days. He lives an hour away. Anyway it’s a very Christian bookstore so if I give him an honest hug they think I am a slut or something. We’ve been “dating” for 11 months and have never actually been on a date and I’ve only seen him three times outside of the store! He could barely even make it to my 16th b-day. His mother (she would do this to any other girl not just to me) keeps him away from me as much as possible making him do stupid things (like putting him in “time out“ at freaking 17 because he was caught after he called me. That whole day, while I was there, he couldn‘t see me). But now she is quitting because her daughter wants to go to public school. She even said “…they won’t get to see each other as much” AS MUCH AS WHAT?!? I love him so much but it hurts just as much! I’ve tried so hard to see him but every time it’s shot down by his mom. Should I just give up or should I hope for the best and wait until he’s 18 so he can get out of that house? I don’t like that this is making his relationship with his mother awful but I don’t know what to do. That quote “Let it go and if it meant to be it will come back to thee.” keeps coming up. But I hate thinking that. “So To be or Not To be??”
Sorry this was long! Thank you so much for reading!! It means a lot! Hope you can help!
Unreasonable parents are one of the most difficult topics to deal with.
My advice is to ask for a meeting between the two mothers and ask them to figure out what is a reasonable amount of time for you to be together or on the phone. Ask your mother if she could do this for you. Ask your mother in advance what her opinion is.
Don't even hint about the 18 years old and he's out idea. Doesn't he have college plans? That would take parental support. Same with you. Also all parents would freak if they thought you were going to skip out of the families.
That would not help your goal.
Now that you are 16, you should start to notice the parents loosening up on their restrictions.
I hope so! George
-- from George
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