How do I ask a friend out?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
There is this guy at school. We are really close friends, and I really like him. I want to ask him out but I don't know what to say. Can you help me??
Your aim is to have him spend more time with you, and to move from 'close friends' into 'romantic partners'. So you want to make this as smooth and non-threatening as possible. You want him to feel comfortable with it.
So don't go leaping into a question like "Go to dinner with me at Le Chez!" in front of all of his friends :) If you're close friends, I imagine you already go with him to movies and dinner, right? If not, that's where to start. Find a comedy movie that you'd both enjoy and ask him to keep you company by going. Say you want to try this new restaurant in town and will he go along. That way you can test the waters with him and see how much you both enjoy it.
If these work out fine, just start changing the tone of those outings. Go to a romantic movie instead of a comedy. Go to a romantic restaurant instead of an Irish Pub. Instead of hugging goodbye, like friends do, give him a kiss on the cheek. He'll either be uncomfortable if he doesn't like these changes, or he'll be happy with it if he does. If he's happy, then you're all set!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com