My Ex GF said no more contact.
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My ex and I were together for a year. We instantly hit it off and became inseperable. She was what I feel to be my true love. I never thought I'd fall in love again until I found her. She was also my best friend. Anyway, we had a very rocky first 6 months. I didn't take things very seriously in the begining and she held back that she had and std untill we had alread had sex. The first break up was over me texting other girls. I felt it harmless, but obviously she didn't. I later agreed and erased all girls from my cell. The second break up was due to the first break up. Within the few weeks that she dumped me I kept trying to get her back with no success. I got outta the house and met with another girl I used to date. No intention of having sex with her, but that's what happened. About a week later my ex took me back, I didn't tell her what happend at first. Later I did and she dumped me again. Within a few more weeks she agreed to take me back if we went to counseling. We went and it seemed to help for a couple months and when she had her birthday a day later she said "it's just not going to work out".
And dumped me over the phone. There was no contact for about two weeks. She finally called me and we hung out as friends with benefits for a couple more months. Until she finally said she thinks its best that I don't contact her anymore so she can heal and be happy again. I agreed and within a week she called me to have sex. Well it's been almost two weeks since then and so far no word from her. I don't know what to do. I just love her so much and would do anything to get her back. I know I made mistakes in the begining, but I've learned from it and would make those mistakes again. What can I do to get my ex back? I keep seeing posts that say everything from not contacting her to sending love letters. Please help!
Ask her if you can call her once a week just to check in.
Take advantage of the call (which should not exceed 15 min) to tell her right off the bat that you still love her deeply. But then immediately switch the conversation to "how are you doing" "what's new" type of questions.
If she wants to talk more, do it, of course.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com