will we ever get back together
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Me and my boyfriend was going out for three years before we broken up. Are relationship was really good thats why I don't understand why we broke up. We have been broken up for 4 days now. We was taking about having kids after I finish college and moving out together. Even though we are broken up we still act like we are a couple. I still see him every other day, he still has my number programed as "wifey" and still has my picture as the screen saver in his phone, and he still tell his parents that Im his girl friend. We still wen't to the movies on Sunday and he still hald my hand and got mad when boys tried to talk to me. One day out the blue he calls me and started to fuse at me saying why did I call his homegirl asking do they go out. I admitt I did do this in the past because I was suspitous that they was more than friends and I called her. We broke up for like a day and he admitted that he was talking to her but he never kissed her or never had sex with her. He just liked to talk to her and he said that he was sorry and it will never happen again. I belived him and we got back together. He told me that he was never going to cheat on me with her and he was hurt that I thought that he was. He deleted her phone number out his phone and stopped talking to her. I did feel bad and I promised him I would never do it again. That was a year ago and I haven't hurt him since then. That's why I can't understand why he broke up with me. I swore to him that I didn't do it because the time that she said that I called I was on the phone with my friend. He said that he belive me but we can't go back out because that situation brong back bad memories and he doesn't want to get hurt by me anymore and we should be friends. I was so sad that I cried a whole day. I thought of all the plans we had and how now they were gone. I tried to talk to him about it but he tells me to let it go for now or that he don't want to talk about it and change the subject. He admitts that the only thing that is keeping us from going back out is that he doesn't want to get hurt.I'm so cofused because he still tells me that he loves me every day but when I ask him can he picture himself with me two years from now he says he doesn't know. A part of me is mad because I think that he put another girls word before mine. All that he knows she could have been lying and he messed up our relationship for nothing. I don't think that it is such a big deal to break up with some one and I tell him this all the time but the only response that I get is that he doesn't want to get hurt again. What can I do to show him that I won't hurt him and gain the trust that I once had in him.
You have been going out for three years and you've only been broken up four days.
Give this a chance to work itself out. He just needs some time to work through his feelings. You can help him by being sweet and gentle with him and trying to contact him regularly.
Tell him you will erase her phone number so that you couldn't call her if you even wanted to. Give him a chance to get over it and since you have had such a long relationship my guess is that he will come back to you soon.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com