Should i Be Jealous part 2
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
hi again forgot to leave more details on last question... Yes my husbands father was a people watcher and i talked to my husband he says he will probably grow old and be a dirty old man watching young girls and he doesnt know if he can stop. He tells me he likes to look at boobs and im not so big but he tells me he likes mine but yet he likes to look at others. He also says he would never cheat on me, im his perfect woman but like i said lately doesnt seem that way. he doesnt have many frends thats cause he finds it hard talking to people and knowing what to say, but when i have friends over he seems to talk just fine. maybe in his mind he thinks he has nothing interesting to say. the first 3 months i moved here we had sex 3 to 4 times a day and talk and cuddle alot but now seems like came to a halt, he tells me stress from work and he needs to get fit. now im not saying he cheating on me cause i dont think he would have time to do that, we spend almost 24/7 togeher. i just feel he is losing interest in me so i lost my confidence in myself, but slowly getting that back now. i was told advice on how to deal but cant seem to do it. i was told to ignore him and not show him affection see wat happens.. also told to just keep giving affection and hopfully will get better once his stress is gone. i have tried many times on talking to him but nothing seems to be changing all i want is this marriage to work. please help.
Not just because of the "people watching" but because of the sex, you need to see a professional counsellor with him or without him.
Your marriage looks like it's in trouble and I don't think you can resolve the problems by yourself. Your husband has pretty much stated that he will not modify his behavior with watching women. He has no significant excuse except "stress" to explain his lack of sex interest.
Something is wrong and you need to nip it in the bud. Seems to me that he could at least give up watching women when you are with him. Or if you are together 24/7 as you say perhaps he needs some alone time.
Good luck to you! George
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