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Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
hi. well, i think im going to see her this saturday (FINALLY!!!) and i think ill be ok with the kissing thing, cuz she told me not to worry about what i say to her. but i dont know is she feels. . . comfortable with me kissing her. is there much i can do about that? and also, i have been trying really hard to try to hug her often, but i just cant. i feel odd whenever i try to do it @ school. any advice on it? and we were talking (AIM) the other day and she told me that she has trouble talking to me because she freezes up around me. is there anything i can do to help her? so pretty much 3 questions
1- what can i do to help her not freeze up/ not be so nervous around me?
2- what do i do about the hugging thing? (is it really important for me to do so?)
3- any last preps about kissing her?
Freezing up can be lessened by touching.
Tell her you got advice that she will feel more comfortable if you touch each other. This includes hugs, holding hands, touching arms, bumping into each other, and kissing. While you are talking choose something that will be easy to talk about like teachers, family, pets, music, cable, computers, friends, and whatever. Share your feelings, this is very important. Just talking about how you feel will make you less nervous.
Hugging is important because the more you touch the less nervous you become. Keep trying and it will become easier.
Kissing is part of all these things. You sound like you are ready and she seems willing so go for it! Good luck, George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com